The Conservative Male
Jason Schaal
Issue date: 11/19/08 Section: Blogs
I have received many great questions for this edition. Please keep them coming! You can send any questions you have to btechnician@kettering.edu. All questions will remain anonymous so feel free to ask whatever you want!
Q: My boyfriend is very supportive of me in everything that I do, in fact he is so trustworthy of me that he encourages me to go out & have a good time with friends when he is not around. Problem is sometimes I will go to fraternity houses to study for class because I don't have any female friends in some classes, and I tend to stay till late doing nothing but studying, yet he gets worried/jealous from me being out so late with all guys. He was never involved in Greek life, which is why I think he does not understand why I go there to study and have good friends there. How can I help him understand this?
A: According to the Princeton Review, over 85% of the student body at Kettering University is male. It is unrealistic for him to expect you to hang out with only girls, because, lets face it, there are not any. Honestly though I cannot say that I blame the guy for being worried. It would be hard to believe that your girlfriend hangs out with guys all the time, and never has any romantic interest in any of them. I would suggest that you bring him with you when you hang out at the fraternity. Guys need to "eye up" their competition and to see how you and the other guys interact to truly determine whether they are a "threat" or not. You may also want to share with him the next question, because, lets face it, Kettering guys are not necessarily the most appealing for a lot of girls.
Q: Why do men at Kettering seem to act so immature? I recently attended a forum and was disgusted by their manners. Why do they do this?
A: This is yet another example of the effects of the "Kettering Ratio". Girls over time have developed IPS or Instant Princess Syndrome. They expect that since there are so few of them that men should do everything imaginable to impress them. Guys on the other hand, have done the complete opposite. Since there are no girls, they don't see any need to impress anyone so they act however they feel. I am sorry to say that when girls are not around (like much of our careers at Kettering) then we act like 5 year olds. Whether you are 15 or 45, bathroom humor is always funny, and in our opinion always appropriate.
Q: I have this guy friend and we hang out a lot, I feel like he is more of a boyfriend since we spend so much time together, but he has yet to take the step of making anything official let alone "Facebook official", why are guys so afraid of commitment? What should I do, just continue to be ok with only being friends?
A: I know that I do not represent everyone when I say this, but I know that many times it is not that we are afraid of commitment, but simply just confused about the technicalities of a modern day "relationship". Is there a formal process for making relationships official? Does all the paperwork have to be signed and notarized? Is there a special release form for changing your Facebook status? First, ask yourself if you are happy with what you have or if you really want more. If you do want more, then come right out and ask him. Remember, Kettering develops us into "leaders" so take the initiative and step up and ask.
Q: My boyfriend is very supportive of me in everything that I do, in fact he is so trustworthy of me that he encourages me to go out & have a good time with friends when he is not around. Problem is sometimes I will go to fraternity houses to study for class because I don't have any female friends in some classes, and I tend to stay till late doing nothing but studying, yet he gets worried/jealous from me being out so late with all guys. He was never involved in Greek life, which is why I think he does not understand why I go there to study and have good friends there. How can I help him understand this?
A: According to the Princeton Review, over 85% of the student body at Kettering University is male. It is unrealistic for him to expect you to hang out with only girls, because, lets face it, there are not any. Honestly though I cannot say that I blame the guy for being worried. It would be hard to believe that your girlfriend hangs out with guys all the time, and never has any romantic interest in any of them. I would suggest that you bring him with you when you hang out at the fraternity. Guys need to "eye up" their competition and to see how you and the other guys interact to truly determine whether they are a "threat" or not. You may also want to share with him the next question, because, lets face it, Kettering guys are not necessarily the most appealing for a lot of girls.
Q: Why do men at Kettering seem to act so immature? I recently attended a forum and was disgusted by their manners. Why do they do this?
A: This is yet another example of the effects of the "Kettering Ratio". Girls over time have developed IPS or Instant Princess Syndrome. They expect that since there are so few of them that men should do everything imaginable to impress them. Guys on the other hand, have done the complete opposite. Since there are no girls, they don't see any need to impress anyone so they act however they feel. I am sorry to say that when girls are not around (like much of our careers at Kettering) then we act like 5 year olds. Whether you are 15 or 45, bathroom humor is always funny, and in our opinion always appropriate.
Q: I have this guy friend and we hang out a lot, I feel like he is more of a boyfriend since we spend so much time together, but he has yet to take the step of making anything official let alone "Facebook official", why are guys so afraid of commitment? What should I do, just continue to be ok with only being friends?
A: I know that I do not represent everyone when I say this, but I know that many times it is not that we are afraid of commitment, but simply just confused about the technicalities of a modern day "relationship". Is there a formal process for making relationships official? Does all the paperwork have to be signed and notarized? Is there a special release form for changing your Facebook status? First, ask yourself if you are happy with what you have or if you really want more. If you do want more, then come right out and ask him. Remember, Kettering develops us into "leaders" so take the initiative and step up and ask.
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